As a parent, you want to do right by your children. When you first got married, you may have thought that you and your spouse would be the perfect team for raising children. However, as the years went on, you may have come to realize that the two of you do not make a strong team when it comes to many areas of marriage. Now that you are heading for divorce, you may wonder what will happen when it comes time to make child custody decisions.
Child custody issues can be one of the most difficult parts of divorce. If you and the other parent can get along amicably in terms of coming to decisions, you may have the ability to reach agreeable child custody terms easily. If your relationship degraded to a point that you cannot work well together, you may face more challenges when it comes to custody. If you believe the latter case to fit yours, you may want to make efforts to boost your chances of getting the outcomes best for your family.
Stay conscious of your actions
Though going through divorce can cause you to feel various emotions, the manner in which you handle those feelings could affect the outcomes of your proceedings. For instance, if you post unseemly comments about your soon-to-be ex on social media or carry out questionable actions, your ex could potentially use those actions against you in child custody proceedings.
For example, he or she may attempt to claim that your actions indicate that you are not fit to care for your children. This type of argument could gain traction if your ex has evidence of your behavior, such as certain types of social-media-posted photos.
Keep your kids the priority
Though it may seem like it would feel satisfying to use your divorce or child custody proceedings to get back at your ex in some way, this type of approach can be detrimental to everyone involved. Intentionally trying to keep the kids from the other parent for these reasons could harm an otherwise healthy relationship with that parent, and using the children to barter for better terms in other areas of the divorce may harm your own relationship with them.
Instead, you may want to focus on your kids during this time and ensure that they have your support. Even if the custody terms don’t end up the way you initially expected, allowing your kids to know that you have their best interests in mind may help your relationships remain strong.